It’s not at all unusual for a wedding with 100 guests to cost around £20,000, but you can do it cheaper and still have a great time. In fact, with half of couples now paying for the wedding themselves, forking out less might add considerably to the enjoyment.
Traditionally, paying for the wedding was the province of the bride’s father, but according to a survey by Wedding magazine only 26 per cent of parents now pay the bills. That leaves just under a quarter of couples presumably expecting relatives and friends to chip in. Little wonder then that the same survey found that couples prefer hard cash instead of kind when it comes down to wedding presents.
A wedding doesn’t have to cost a fortune though, particularly if you call in a few favours from family and friends. If you can’t fit all your guests into your front room you’re bound to find a local pub willing to host your reception for a fraction of the cost of a swanky, high-priced hotel.
Relatives and friends are usually willing to help out with food and while you might want to provide wine with your meal or a glass of something sparkly for the toast, you don’t have to provide a constant supply of free drinks all round. The lady a few doors up the street is probably an expert cake maker and will be delighted to provide the wedding cake. Or there’s always the local supermarket.
A friend or relative with a nice car will usually be more than happy to give it a special polish for your special day and act as a chauffeur for the bride. The groom is usually capable of finding his own way to the church or registry office if given sufficient instructions and a sherpa guide.
Most families have an Uncle George who reckons he’s a dab hand with a camera. He’s just bought a new digital job and he’s keen to demonstrate his skills. He’ll provide a memory card with all the pictures taken on the day so that you can print some off using your home printer. So that’s the photography taken care of then.
Or is it? Is Uncle George up to recording the most important day of your life? While he might be an accomplished amateur photographer will be able to come up with the goods on the day and produce a great set of pictures?
Does he have the knowledge and skills to cope? What happens if it pours of rain? Does he have portable studio lighting equipment in case the photography has to take place indoors? What happens if his camera malfunctions? A pro will have at least one spare camera back just in case. Will the images be of sufficient quality to print that 20” x 16” canvas that you’d like for the wall of your new home – or for that matter the 10”x 8” print for the photo frame that Auntie Maud bought you for a wedding present? Does he know his Raw from his JPEG?
Quite apart from the technical side, does Uncle George have the patience of a saint, organising skills of a pageant master, diplomacy of an ambassador, artistry of a painter, and the speed of an athlete? Not to mention an unflagging sense of humour.
If you’ve any doubt you’d better call in a professional. Some things just aren’t worth risking.

